Last month I wrote about one of my biggestgrammar pet peeves—the increasingly common erroneous use of the first person pronoun “I” as the object of a sentence. I laid out the correct usage and linked to additional resources on the topic, but apparently I left readers wanting more. (That is, after all, the trick of the trade.)
Dwight Gordon of Arlington Community Federal Credit Union contacted me to express his disappointment in my failure to describe how the reflexive form of the first person pronoun is increasingly being mistreated by unwitting grammar felons (my words, not his). The error is simple to fix once you are aware of it. Children aren’t the only ones who repeat words they hear. Unfortunately, it ain’t cute when adults do it.
Reflexive pronounsare formed by adding the suffix “self” to a pronoun, e.g.: myself, yourself, himself, herself, ourselves, themselves, itself, and oneself. NB: “Hisself” is not a word.
Reflexive pronouns are usually the object of a sentence and refer back to the subject. Here are some examples:
- I made myself dessert.
- He fixed the brakes himself.
- You might want to immerse yourself in exercise.
Intensive pronouns essentially are reflexive pronouns used to add emphasis to subjects, as in the sentence, “The queen herself has spoken.” In this example, “herself” can easily be removed from the sentence without affecting its meaning, which differentiates intensive from strictly reflexive pronouns.
According to Dwight, misuse of the reflexive pronoun is reaching epidemic proportions. I’m not convinced we’ve reached an epidemic yet, but I concur the problem is proliferating. Here’s an example of the misuse I often hear and even see in emails: “Respond to Karl or myself with any questions.” OUCH!
“Respond to Karl or me with any questions” is correct. As a reinforcement to last month’sarticle, please note that “Karl and I” is incorrect because the subject, you, is understood, making “Karl and me” a compound object.
Dwight describes a related poem he wrote as therapy and he gave me permission to share it. Enjoy!
Me, Myself, and I
In the mirror,
upon the shelf,
I looked and saw
of course, myself.
Friends missing there
were Me and I.
They have departed,
and I could cry...
Remember fondly,
when there were three,
when one could say,
“look at Me!”
But now myself
is all I hear,
it’s disconcerting
and quite unclear...
Bring back the days
long since gone by,
when we all hung out,
Me, Myself, and I.
